Dallas Dating Blog

The new aggressive me

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Sat, 22 May 2010 10:30:00 -0400

Heather sent me a long ass dear john letter telling me how I wasn't her type and that I wasn't aggressive enough with her and that she is looking for a guy who is more aggressive so I figured I would try and be objective about the whole thing and really listen to the feedback that she gave me and I decided I would try and be more aggressive the next time I went out on a date with someone. There were like 8 different girls I was talking to on MSN and these girls were all girls that I was trying to get to go out on a date with me so I messaged each one and was really aggressive about seeing them and asking them all kinds of personal questions basically I did a 180 degree turn on my attitude before. I totally turned off four of the girls and they all deleted me from their MSN and one girl even called me an asshole lol. I know from these responses that I am not being too passive anymore, that is for sure. The four girls that didn't get turned off seem to like the new aggressive me. I went out on two dates after that with two different girls. The first date went horribly. The girl didn't really look anything like her pictures online and I was like WTF.

There is actually a funny story behind that date so let me tell that story first. I told her to meet me at this coffee shop called Crooked Tree Coffeehouse. The place is really cool and I want to go back there again, just this time with another girl. So I tell this chick to meet me there at 4:30pm for some coffee. She finally rolls in around 10 to 5pm and didn't even apologize for being late. The other thing is that she had a hairy upper lip and I was like wtf nooo that is my number one turn off. I was pissed off at her because not only was she late without apologizing but she wasn't the same girl in the pics I don't think and she was hairy. She asked me if I wanted another coffee because I had already drank the first one I ordered so I was like ok sure I will have another coffee then when she went and stood in line, I pretended to go to the washroom and then just ducked it out of there and literally ran to my car and took off lol. I got a few angry messages from her the next day but I just deleted them. I am glad I never gave her my phone number or anything. The only thing she had was my email address lol.

The other date I went on went much better lol. Her name is Carol which is a name I am not a big fan of. You know how sometimes you hear a girl's name and then you are like eww? Well that is what happened but the difference is that she is really hot. Hot girls get a free pass if they have an unattractive name. I told her to meet me at this other cool coffee shop I know here in Dallas called Opening Bell Coffee Inc. The place is usually full of stock market guys and shit but when we went the place was kind of dead. I met her there around 4pm on a Wed night. She was very attractive and we sat and talked for a few hours about everything under the sun. I was having a very hard time gauging her interest. I was being aggressive and she didn't seem to mind it, but she was kind of shy and she didn't ask me THAT many questions but at the same time she wasn't a dead fish personality either. I think maybe she is just a submissive girl that likes to be dominated which is fine by me and seems to be kind of common. After coffee she said she had to go visit her parents for dinner so she couldn't hang out any longer. I just grabbed her and pulled her close and kissed her in a very aggressive manner and she went with it. I have been chatting with her a bit since then and I am definitely going to be going out with her again soon.

How did she really feel?

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Mon, 03 May 2010 11:30:00 -0400

In my last entry I was telling you about that girl Jerry that I had gone out with and had a good time with and fooled around with etc and how I thought that she might be the one... well guess what? She isn't the one. I will tell you why she isn't the one. First of all I met this other girl the very next day named Heather. Heather seems to have ALL the qualities I look for in a woman and she is better looking than Jerry. The other thing is that a few times when I was chatting with Jerry it seemed like she typed the wrong thing into the window as if she was having multiple conversations with many guys at once. Also when I was with her it seemed like she got constant text messages and was texting back all the time. I do not want a girl like that. I fucking hate people that are constantly texting back and forth. I think they have some deep rooted issues that they need to sort out. I mean is it really necessary to clickity clack on your iphone all through dinner or when I am talking. So anyways yeah, those things happened plus we had a few weird conversations on the phone where I got this feeling that she might be a bit psycho so I just sent her an email basically telling her that she wasn't my type etc and just moved on from that scene.

This new girl Heather I was really excited to meet and I got my chance on Saturday that just passed. I told her that we should get together for coffee somewhere first and if things were going well then we could move on and go to dinner. This woman had the kind of beauty that would make a man do pretty much anything... go to ANY lengths necessary to get her. So I took a taxi over around 3pm to this cool coffee shop I know of. I was really nervous in the ride over because I had no idea what she was going to be like in real life and I was eager to have her like me. I was trying not to come across as desperate or needy though because that is not how I wanna be rolling. She was already sitting at a table inside La Duni Latin Cafe which was the cool coffee shop we agreed to meet at. She looked so fucking hot sitting at that table alone that I just stood there out of view for a few minutes and soaked up the view. Finally I walked over to her grinning my ass off - I was trying to keep a straight face but I just wasn't able to. She saw me and smiled and stood up and gave me a hug. I have to say that I was pretty nervous.

We sat and drank coffee and talked for a few hours. I was choosing my words very carefully because I felt like she was a good prize that I wanted to score so I was doing my best not to say anything too perverted or random. There was a bunch of things that I usually talk about when I first meet a woman but to be honest I don't think that any of those things helped me so I have taken a different approach here. She told me that her last relationship last 5 years and that she eventually broke up with him because they weren't totally compatible. I thought that was cool but it also showed that she is a strong willed woman who won't just settle so I better make sure I impress her. After a few hours of talking which I thought was going quite well I realized it was almost 6 o clock so I asked her if she was hungry and if she wanted to go grab a bite to eat but she said she had to meet her family for a family dinner at one of her relatives house. I was like ok because really what the fuck can I say? It kind of sounded like bullshit at the time but I would like to believe her. We left the coffee shop and kinda hung around awkwardly outside of the place and talked some more for about 10 minutes. I couldn't tell how into me she was so I never bothered trying to kiss her. We hugged and left. I talked to her a little bit yesterday but I am hoping to talk to her again some time today and find out what she really thought.

Could be the one

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:01:00 -0400

Hi everyone, well I am back to 100% now physically. I haven't had any real issues with post traumatic stress or anything like that so that is all good. I have gone out to a few clubs since then and I HAVE drank but I didn't drink so much that I got drunk and got myself into trouble. Those days are over my friend. I have turned over a new leaf and I am living my life quite differently now. The girls I told that I was in Africa doing Greenpeace all think that I am full of shit. I had to basically start from scratch and send out lots of messages. I have also been keeping my eye on the new users. These are the girls that joined the site in the last 24 hours and I can search them and send them a message. I can get to them before other guys do, they are basically fresh meat. I have noticed that some girls will come online, meet a guy then just totally stop looking at their messages or logging in. You got to grab the good ones while you can

There is one girl that I have been seeing, well I have been chatting with her a lot online. When we first met online through the online dating site, we exchanged a few messages back and forth and then I asked her for her msn and we started to talk on msn. We have been talking on msn for almost 2 weeks but on saturday we got together for coffee at a local coffee house called Urban Dog Coffee it is one of those oooh im so cool I am drinking coffee in this cool place that isn't starbucks kind of place. It was perfect. So I met her there at 1pm and we had some mochas and we chatted for what seemed like 3-4 hours. The thing about meeting for coffee for a first date is that I am not a big coffee drinker, so all of a sudden I am drinking coffee and I am all hopped up on caffeine and I get edgy etc - not the best mood to be in to be all calm and cool and put the moves on a chick ya know?

So when we first met I was really nervous because we had chatted sooo much online hat I felt like I knew here so well but maybe I knew a different version of her. The thing is, sometimes people are different online than they are in real life. When we first met and sat down we both were kind of shy and we were both laughing but I did the best I could to take control of the situation because that is in my nature. Once we started talking more we totally loosened up and started to discus all the crazy things we had talked about online. It was quite fun after that point and we eventually left the coffee shop around 6pm and went and grabbed a bite to eat from a place called Twisted Root Burger which is like totally renowned for them homemade burgers. We then grabbed a cab and went back to my place where we had a few drinks and fooled around on the couch a bit and watched a movie. All in all it was a good night, and I have been talking to her online and the phone since we went out.... she could be the one.

Oops I did it again.

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:00:00 -0400

Jessica never came back online I sat there like an idiot all night getting more and more agitated. I eventually got really mad and I started to drink heavily. I kind of remember leaving my house at some point and wandering out into the city with a bottle of Jack Daniels in one hand and a joint in the other. I vaguely remember ending up in a club and dancing on a dance floor... then I remember some idiot bumping into me and us getting into an argument and a fight ensued. Somehow during all this confusion, I don't really recall myself but I found out later that I had started hitting a bouncer who I thought was this guy, and of course 5 other bouncers cam to his rescue and they kicked the shit out of me. It is all black from that point on until I woke up in the hospital 5 days ago. Apparently I had taken such a bad beating and had such a bad concussion that they had to induce a coma on me so that I wouldn't die. I only found out all this stuff later from someone who had been at the club, this guy named Sam, and he had visited me in the hospital a few times and wanted to make sure I knew WTF had happened.

I have to say I don't feel that bad physically. My body is a bit sore but that is mainly from entropy caused by not moving around and lying in a hospital bed for a month. My family have been very supportive and stuff and that is nice. I have a new friend now and that is cool, but I need to BANG CHICKS YO! Enough of this fucking boohoo shit. I need me some pussy and I need it now. I went online this morning and logged into my online dating site and I have like 15 messages from different girls. No message from Jessica which I think is just down right odd but whatever. I sent each girl a message telling them I was doing a tour in GreenPeace in Africa helping to build schools for orphans and shit. If any of them reply then I will continue on with them and get them to go on dates with me.

I am also gonna spend some time later today fixing up my online profile. I just went in and looked at it and I was not impressed with what I read. I am gonna sit back with a drink and a J and grab a pen and paper and really think about what I want to write in that profile so that I attract the right kind of girl. I figure that I fucked things up the last time I did this 10+ years ago and I want to get it right this time. Once I am done that, I am going to go through and browse all the new girls that have joined the online dating site since I was last on there, because I know a lot of girls join the site every week so there must be lots of new ones to look at. It is really cool, it is kind of like window shopping at the mall I will update this blog again once I have something else to report about.

One is ill and one is ill

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 18:21:47 -0500

Wow talking to Jessica on the phone the other night was the best thing that could have happened to me. She was like a breath of fresh air and I think I actually like her more than Erin who by the way is still sick in the hospital

She works as a promo girl for Heineken. She goes around to bars and pubs and she does promotional things like if you buy a bucket with 5 beers in it then you get like a Heineken shirt and a hat. Stuff like that. She doesn't drink when she goes to clubs because she is working and she said she is not that big on going to clubs in general because she is always at them when she is working and she is sober and she has to deal with drunken idiots.

She is really hot and I am almost surprised that she has decided to talk to me. She said that physical appearance doesn't mean that much to her because she has been dealing with physicality her entire life and most people can't see past her beauty and that really frustrates her. I have a really hard time relating to what she is saying but I am definitely doing everything I can to downplay how damn hot I think she is. She has the most amazingly sexy voice to match her sexy appearance and half the time she was talking to me I felt like I was mesmerized and I couldn't think straight. I think I did a good job on the phone with her and since then we have been chatting on MSN and I hoping to take her out for dinner this weekend sometime. I told her we should get together and she said oh really when did you have in mind then she went offline. She must have lost power or something or her Internet service provider went down or something.

I was sitting here waiting for he to come back online and then I was like oh snap I need to post in my blog again so here I am. I really hope she comes back online soon because I was just sitting here for like 20 mins like a dumbass waiting to see her come back online. She could have said fuck it and gone out for the night for all I know. I think she has to work tonight anyways. I guess I am gonna go cook some dinner now and watch some TV. Talk to you all soon again.

Bad timing ftw

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 15:26:17 -0500

It seems that Erin has fallen ill. She said it started out as the flu and now she is in the hospital because she is so weak. I can't believe how shitty the timing is on this. I mean I know this must sound selfish but finally I meet a really cool chick that I really like who really likes me and now she is sick in the hospital. I really need that female attention right now in my life. I am really feeling depressed about everything in my life and the only thing that makes me feel better is to be with a woman. I am the kind of guy that can allow myself to lose myself in a girl and really enjoy the moment and it makes me feel good and it totally distracts me from how much I hate the rest of my life. I know that if I can find the right girl then I can be happy again so when I got this news this morning from Erin it really sent me into a tailspin.

I had plans to meet her tomorrow night but I guess that isn't happening now! Who knows how long she will be in the hospital for. It could be a week or 2 weeks or who knows! What the hell am I supposed to do in the meantime. I mean we went on one date and I kissed her, big deal. That doesn't mean I have to sit around and wait for her I mean things between her and I are totally casual and I should be free to pursue other women I mean I have no idea how things are going to work out with Erin and I.

With that being said, let me tell you about this other girl that has been messaging me. I have been kind of ignoring her messages because I had this thing going with Erin so I was like whatever I don't need to reply to this new girl at all. Her name is Jessica and she is 27 years old. At first I was like this girl is too young for me, but then I realized that 27 is not really that young and it is only 6 years younger than me. In fact it got me to thinking that maybe a younger girl is exactly what I need to make me feel better. For the most part, it is my observation that people become less naive, less open minded as they get older. Most people get more jaded as they get older and their attitude becomes worse as they are exposed to more and more negativity and deal with more and more dissappointment. I am not saying that everyone is like this I am just saying that it seems to be from my observations that the vast majority of older people feel this way.

I think it has something to do with the fact that a lot of people see life as completely pointless. As in there is no meaning of life. Life is what we do day to day and the small moments of happiness we enjoy.

Anyways I am talking to this girl and she wants to chat on the phone today and I am going to do that once I get home from work. Hopefully talking to this girl on the phone will give me the female injection that I need to keep going.

Great success!

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:53:04 -0500

I have good news to report! On Saturday night I went out on a date with that girl Erin I was talking about in my previous blog entry. You know, the one with the short hair who looks like Audrey Hepburn

She told me previously that she was a vegetarian and I really wanted to impress her so I found this awesome vegetarian restaurant called Kalachandji's Palace & Restaurant. They have been serving up veggie dishes in Dallas for like 27 years and the place is really cool inside. It is Indian cuisine but it is all vegetarian. The place is busy all the time.

I told her we should meet at the restaurant by taxi so that way we could have some drinks and not worry about having to drive later and she was cool with that so that is what we did. I arrived to the restaurant about 15 minutes late and she was already sitting inside at a table which made me feel a bit weak knowing that I was late and she was sitting around waiting for me. This is not how a typical date goes in this society, I felt like I had broken protocol and I felt the need to apologize profusely. I walked up to the table and the first thing I said was "I'm so sorry I'm late" and she was like don't worry about it, and she said that she was the one who was usually late. I felt relieved and I gave her a hug and sat down. Then we had the typical, trying to have a normal conversation while at the same time physically checking out the other person which is always funny especially if one could listen to the conversation as a third party.

We ordered some drinks and some appetizers and the place was really nice and the service was great. The food was really cool and something new for me considering I am a hardcore carnivore or a meativore as I like to call it We hcatted about everything for what seemed like hours. We talked about our jobs, our ex partners, the kind of music we like, all the typical first date topics were covered and it seemed like things were going pretty well.

Toward the end of dinner I was having a hard time determining how much she liked me and if she wanted the date to end or if she wanted to do something else. I somehow eluded to the fact that it was time to leave the restaurant and to my surprise she smiled and said "where to next?" I was totally stoked and I was like lets go to a club and have some more drinks and go dancing etc. She was like ok cool lets go. So we had them call us a taxi and we headed over to this club called Purgatory. I just happen to know a bouncer that works there. No I am not one of THOSE guys that knows bouncers at every club and can get it for free no problem and be all like yo bro whats up and stuff - no that is not me. However, there IS a guy who works out any my gym that I was spotting once and helping out and he was like hey if you ever want to come by Purgatory just look for me and I will hook you up and let you in ahead of the line for free etc. I was like cool but I didn't think I would ever take him up on the offer.

We arrived at the club and I had no idea if he was working or not but it was 9:45pm and there was a massive lineup down the street. We got out of the taxi and Erin was like - oh wow look at this lineup - we will never get in and in like some cool stylish movie, I was like let me see what I can do and I walked right up passed the line to where all the bouncers were hovering. This guy was like whoa - where you going fella and I was like is Jake working tonight and he was like yeah one second and this guy walked a few feet inside the building and the next thing I know Jake comes out looking all serious and I was like shit maybe I should have said something first or something, maybe he is gonna get pissed by me just showing up here unannounced. He walks up to the rope and stops and says Yes? Can I help you... and I was like uhh uhh wtf and Erin is looking at me like wtf. Then he cracks a huge laugh and is like, I'm just kidding man, come on in and opens the rope and lets us in and gives me a slap, handshake, bro hug and I was like sweet and Erin was shocked. We got inside the club and she was like How did you do that? I was like connections baby, connections. We both laughed then we went and got a drink and I explained that I knew the guy from my gym.

We drank lots of drinks, we laughed, chatted and danced until the wee hours of the morning and we had a great time. In the taxi ride home on the way to her place I made my move and began to kiss her. We shared one big long sloppy kiss the entire ride to her house. When we got there the taxi driver was like yo we are here and I really though she was going to invite me up and keep things going but she said, I had a great time and I want to do it again sometime, I don't like to move too fast on the first date but I really like you. I was like ok, I mean what else was I supposed to say, I have to look and act cool, I can't show her how eager I was to come up to her place. So I chalked that night up as a victorious one and we have been chatting online nearly everyday since and I am looking forward to taking her out again soon. Every time I think of her, I get a big smile on my face and I am very happy and grateful that I made the decision to join that online dating site and to make this blog because I am having a great time writing in it. Hopefully you all are enjoying reading it so far.

Something good is happening

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:02:35 -0500

I am glad to be typing again in this blog. That means that I actually have something cool going on in my life worth writing about. I haven't spent a lot of time writing in my life so bear with me please. I raise horses and I never really had to spend much time writing, but I play video games so I am able to type quickly and I know my way around a computer. I just ain't had much experience with writing, especially writing about things that are happening to me but I think that because this is anonymous it makes it much easier for me to be honest about how I feel and not get embarrassed etc about stuff.

Right now I am talking to like 10 different girls that I have met on this online dating site. Most of them I have just been sending messages back and forth to through the online dating website interface but there is like 3 girls that I am talking to all the time on msn. Sometimes I am talking to them all at once which is really cool and makes me feel good about myself and makes me feel confident. The confidence is a great thing because I can use that to feed off of. Right now things are pretty casual with all three girls and I am still moving forward with each one and eventually the plan is to ask them out on dates, separately of course lol although together would be awesome.

One girl is named Erin and she is 30 and she has really short hair and kind of looks like Audrey Hepburn which I think is very cool because most girls do not look good with short hair but because of the structure of her face she is able to make it look good. I am sure she would look really good even with long hair but it is short and it looks really good. She has a really cool way about her. I mean she is totally the life of the party kind of girl. She is very enthusiastic about pretty much everything, so much so that i was wondering if she might be manic depressive. She works for some shipping company and I don't even really know what she does. She is a bit of a mystery but I am very intrigued to say the least. Will let you know how it goes.

2010: The Year Of The Steve

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 13:59:57 -0500

2010 is my year yo! This is my year to finally be happy. When I was a kid and I imagined what I might be doing in the year 2000 I never thought I would be where I was and I certainly never thought it would take me until the year 2010 to actually be happy as an adult. Ok enough of this sappy crap lets get to the good stuff.

Randy is the man yo... he is a bombsauce wedding photographer and he took some kickass pics of me and now I have a sweet ass profile online for the dating site I joined. The girls who have already messaged me are commenting on how much they love the pictures and how creative they are. They aren't saying wow you are really hot, they are saying the pictures themselves are really good which I guess is a testament to Randy who is the man yo! I bought him a bottle of Jaegermeister as a gift for helping me out. Of course he was like you have to drink it with me, so we drank the thing and watched True Blood on tv - good times.

I am really happy that I have got so many responses from girls already. It has been great for my self confidence and for my ego. Most of them seem to be looking for guys for long term relationships and that is cool. I don't really blame them. I don't expect girls who are just looking for one night stands or whatever to be going online looking for that. Maybe I am wrong, maybe it is too soon for me to give my opinion but I personally think that girls who are like that would just go to a club. I am trying to arrange dates with a couple of the girls and I will update again soon and I should have something to report I hope.

A new day dawns

nospam@example.com (Steve) — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 19:03:14 -0500

A new day dawns and it is time for me to finally get myself back into the dating game. I have been out of the game since 1999. That's right, it has been 10 years since I was last single. Those were the good old days... I was 23 years old and I had the world by the balls. The world was my oyster and I could do anything I wanted to. I always thought that when I was "grown up" and an adult I would have a mansion and five cars with a beautiful wife. I was ready to do anything with my life. The possibilities were endless and there was always enough time to do anything... to make any dream a reality.

I met Fiona when I was 23 and she was 28. I was like wow here is this older woman that is totally into me. I never really had patience for younger immature women so she was like a breath of fresh air. I figured there was no point messing around with these younger women and going on dates and doing all that shit because I had her and she was all I wanted. For the first three years of our relationship we had sex virtually on a daily basis, in fact that was all our relationship really was. We would go to work then come home and have sex all night and eat food. I didn't have a care in the world and I felt like I was the luckiest man alive. I felt like no matter what happened to me, I was going to be happy because I had her.

Anyways here we are 10 years later and obviously all that crap I thought was correct wasn't. I eventually got bored of her and she eventually was unable to tolerate my inadequacies. Our relationship eventually evolved into a destructive, co-dependent nightmare of a time. I wanted to leave her like 2 years ago but I wasn't able to pull the trigger. Finally I did 3 months ago and I have never been happier. My life is totally different now.

So here we are 2009 and I am a 33 year dude with a plan. That plan is to hook up with as many girls as humanly possible. The best way I think to do this is to join an online dating site. This way I court multiple chicks at one time. I can juggle multiple juggies if you know what I mean lolz.

I joined the online dating site 2 days ago and I am slowing working on creating my profile. I don't really have any good pictures of myself yet but I am going out with my friend Randy tomorrow and he is going to take some pics of me. I am getting a haircut in the morning and then in the afternoon, in the sunshine we are going to go to a few spots around town and he is going to take a whole lot of pictures. He is a wedding photographer and he has a really high quality camera and he really knows what he is doing.

I looked around at a lot of different guys profiles to see what looks cool and what looks homo. I want to avoid looking like a facking gaylord. I have been reading a lot of websites and forums that talk about meeting women and stuff.

A work in progress I guess